Tuesday, 30 August 2011

The 'F' Word

"Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive." C.S. Lewis

 The concept of forgiveness is bound up with the idea of healing and with one person asking for forgiveness, or expressing their sorrow for some wrong they committed against another and the other person forgiving them. 

Some believe the purist form of forgiveness is the sort that is not asked for. Think of the story of the prodical son ...there is no mention of forgiveness - the father just rejoices that he has his son back and throws a party.

 The bible has an abundance of instructions on loving your enemies and forgiving your tresspassers. " For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you," Mathew 6:14

Oscar Wilde's quote "Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much." has a cynical and ironic twist with an element of truth in it. 

John F Kennedy's quote "Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names." is I believe probably a wise and a cautious approach especially if you are a politician although when you look at history this notion probably did not help JFK much.

Another theory of forgiveness is that we cannot say we have truly forgiven unless we can forget, totally... and start again with a clean slate, leaving the past in the past. This idea is a 'big ask' and some people would argue that only people who are either deeply spiritual or very naive would have the courage to be able to do this. The thing about the past is that it is there for us to learn from so it would be very naive to ignore any lessons that we may learn from it; lessons about ourselves and the people that we interact with - ignoring what happened in the past may not be the most sensible thing to do.

When you type 'forgiveness quotes' into the google search engine you will be rewarded with a myraid of quotes and countless ideas and advice about the need to find forgiveness in your heart when wronged. The importance of forgiveness, or the importance of finding the ability to forgive could not be lost on any of us. 

The truth is that it is only by allowing ourselves to forgive that we will find peace of mind, that we will be able to put to rest wrongs (or perceived wrongs) against us.

One other point to recognise is that often it is people who we love that we feel do us wrong - another reason why forgiveness is such an important concept.

“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” Bryant H Mc Gill.



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Tuesday, 12 July 2011

"Love Is Like A Kind Of Warfare."

Ovid said “Love is a kind of warfare” and maybe he was right. I do believe that love brings with it a kind of friction - it can be full of cares and fears. If your world is already knee deep with cares and fears you may not feel that you can ‘deal’ with the sort of friction that love will bring or the kind of pain that it leaves in its wake.

I see friction in some of the couples I know, with some of them it is that positive friction that comes with the passion they have for one another; with others it is a negative friction of trying to make themselves (and each other) believe that they still have that sort of love when they do not. Where love is concerned our hearts can be quite feeble and fickle. Something we tend to forget is that love rarely lasts forever.

Some people choose the comfort and contentment of their own solitude rather than the emotional turmoil of having  to deal with the sort of friction that love brings. Most however will always want love to be in their lives and will actively look for it - and they will find it. Ovid also said “All love is vanquished by a succeeding love”. That, I definitely believe.

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Tuesday, 5 July 2011

Rational And Irrational Thought - No Such Thing.

I read a report in The Inquisitr about Victoria Beckham going into hospital for a C Section. C. Sections are apparently fashionable among the rich and famous, they have a tummy tuck and some people claim there is no pain. Having had a C section I would take issue about this claim - it is a major operation!

Reading the responses to the article I believe that Victoria Beckham has chosen to have a C. Section which made me think how illogical people are. Choosing to have a major operation without any medical reason seems to me to be totally irrational. Which goes to show that there is no such thing as rational or irrational thought. There is just 'thought'. The craziest of thoughts can be argued as rational and reasonable - if that is what you truely want to believe.

A little Trivia About The Declaration Of Independence

Some quite interesting trivia about the Declaration of Independence. Outside of America it was first published in the Belfast Newsletter on the 23rd of August, 1776. A copy of the document was being transported to London when bad weather forced the ship to port at Derry. The document was then carried on horseback to Belfast for the continuation of its voyage to England, where a copy was made for the Belfast newspaper.

Eight of the fiftysix signatories on the document were of Ulster-Scots Presbyterian stock. They were John Hancock, President of the Continental Congress who had family ties in Co.Down; William Whipple, whose parents arrived in Maine from the North of Ireland in 1730; Robert Paine, his grandfather came from Dungannon; Thomas McKean (his father came from Ballymoney); Thomas Nelson, his grandfather came from Strabane; Matthew Thornton from Londonderry, he settled in New Hampshire in 1718; and George Taylor, son of an Ulster Presbyterian minister and Edward Rutledge, also a son of an Ulster Presbyterean family.

Well maybe it is not terribly interesting trivia ... unless you come from Ulster.

Wednesday, 11 May 2011

Do You Have A Soul Mate.

Do you have a soulmate? Is it the person you last see at night before you close your eyes to sleep - the person you see first thing that you wake up? Someone you have an affinity with, a connection so deep, and an understanding that is - simply spiritual...so simple and straightforward that sometimes words are unnecessary. You feel as though they know what you are thinking - sometimes before you are thinking it? When you met this person you felt as though you had known them forever - though you know nothing about them; and you cannot IMAGINE them not ever being in your life again. Do you have a person like that in your life?
Plato's story of soulmates in 'The Symposium.' tells us that humans once had four arms and four legs and a single head made up with two faces. They could walk upright, both backwards and forwards and they could also go down on four arms and four feet tumbling along at a terrific pace when they wanted to run. "Terrible was their might and strength, and the thoughts of their heart were great" They attacked the Gods.

Rather than destroy them Zeus decided to separate them make each one two, doubling the population and making them weaker and humbling them. So that is why through life it is said that people are searching for their better half, their soul mate to make them whole once more. That is why people believe that out there somewhere there is someone who is right for them. Though I think when Zeus separated them he also scattered them. Some people never find their soul mates and maybe some don't even recognise each other.

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